Can we talk?
I’m a mom that’s probably a little (or a lot) like you. I’m a Jesus-lovin’, coffee drinkin’, kinda crunchy sort of mom. I have those rockstar mom days and my can’t-remember-when-I-washed-my-hair-last days. I have a handful of kids and life is FULL. Fun too. But definitely full.
In the middle of my sometimes-too-full life, God laid this project on my heart. You see, over the last few years I’ve been through some mountain top moments and some valley of despair kind of moments. And God has been so gracious to use both the good and the bad experiences to teach me a lot of things. (Some lessons I wish I could have maybe read the cliff notes for, but you know… I guess the cliff notes are never as good as the real deal).
Out of those experiences has come a passion to help other moms have hope.
Am I an expert? No. Can you ever really be an expert at mom life? Probably not. But I do have a degree in Human Development and Family Studies, and ten years of experience working with families and children in professional settings, and I can help you too.
Ultimately, I want this blog to give hope for the moms out there who don’t always feel like they have it together. This is for the mommas who view their friends’ instagrams and feel like they are less than because their life may not be instagram perfect. This is for the mom that wakes up seven bajillion times in the middle of the night to feed their newborn or pick their toddler up when they’ve rolled out of the bed, and then wonders why she has a hard time functioning during the day. This is for the mom who feels alone. This is for the mom who is in need of a little grace.
I hope that you’ll come here and be encouraged. I hope that you’ll take with you the message that you can do this mom thing… that you’re not alone… that you are probably doing a much better job than you feel like you are.
So, why the name Unhurried Mom?
Well, because I am convinced that the thing our children need most is an emotionally present mom, and I for one have a hard time being emotionally present when I am in a hurry.
In our culture, it seems like “hurry” is considered a virtue. It almost seems like we view the length of our “to do” list as an indicator of our level of success.
I have found that learning, connection, and relationships happen best in the white space on the calendar. It happens when we slow down and are able to make the most of each opportunity that presents itself.
Plus, you know what kids don’t ever do? Hurry. You may be rushing out the door because you’re running 20 minutes late, but kids just don’t have that concept down yet. Inevitably someone is going to have to poop at the last minute, or someone else isn’t going to be able to find their second shoe. Hurry makes us irritable, and it causes stress on the whole family.
Kids need eye contact. They need someone to listen to every bit of their very long, slowly drawn out story without rushing them along. They need us to take the time to really SEE them, and it’s hard to do that when we are always in a hurry.
Creating an unhurried life is hard because it’s counter cultural. It takes intentionality. It takes saying “no” to good things in favor of saying “yes” to the best thing. It’s not something I have mastered yet, but it’s something I am constantly working towards. I would love to have you come with me on my journey toward an unhurried life.